For Better Or For Worse
February 11, 2009 § Leave a comment
“But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.” Matthew 5:32
I feel like I think about marriage a lot. It is something that many typical Americans experience or at least hope to someday experience, although there are indeed some who denounce it as institutionalized oppression by the patriarchy. The first few times I read this passage in Matthew, I nodded to myself and figured that it was pretty reasonable. Marital unfaithfulness would definitely convince me to get a divorce.
I Do, Or Don’t: Pt. II
January 28, 2009 § 3 Comments
Another tradition that makes me cringe is that of the father of the bride walking his daughter up the aisle to hand her off to the groom. This is a pretty obvious representation of familial power structures, as well as a lovely remnant of the days when women were literally regarded as objects to own. I don’t like this, and frankly I would prefer to walk down the aisle myself or even with my groom, but I’m not sure I could subvert that custom without upsetting someone. Roomie #1 jokingly suggested that I should have my mom walk me down the aisle instead, which is hilarious because it is totally feasible, since she controls my life 95% of the time when I’m at home.
During the commercial breaks I switched over to TLC, hoping for What Not To Wear to come on. Instead, 17 Kids and Counting was playing, which is the reality TV show about the Duggar family and its 17.5 children. One of the sons, Josh, was getting married [really, I couldn’t escape the theme that day]. He and his fiance, Anna, had never done anything past holding hands and hugging, and always had chaperones when they were together, which isn’t too difficult considering the boundless amount of siblings he has running around.
I Do, Or Don’t
January 27, 2009 § 1 Comment
After spending some time watching the Women’s Entertainment channel [I hate how dumb it is but boy was I entertained] on Sunday, I started thinking about weddings. It was kind of impossible not to – they played one wedding show after another. After Rich Bride Poor Bride there was Platinum Weddings; then came My Fair Wedding. It was disgusting. People were spending over $500,000 for their weddings, requesting princess dresses and royal balls. The amount of effort and money spent on just one day really amazed me.
I’ll preface the rest of this post by admitting that although I do welcome romanticism from time to time, I’m usually more jaded toward cliches and tradition, and weddings are commonly rooted in both. Also, I have never actually been to a wedding [somebody get MARRIED already!], and I’m sure experiencing one would cause me to feel more favorably towards them.